WRATH | Female Misandry.

“Try to understand men. If you understand each other you will be kind to each other. Knowing a man well never leads to hate and almost always leads to love.”

– John Steinbeck.

        It seems as though it was a whole lifetime ago, that there was a time when I was madly in love with my Barbie Dolls. I remember a time when I couldn’t wait until christmas morning so I could open my eyes, rush through the stairs, and unwrap as many presents as fast as I could, all while being surrounded by the people I love the most: My Family. My infatuation with barbie and her pink utopia diminished several divorces later. I began to despise Barbie, her perfect life and even, every girl that reminded me of Barbie. For unknowingly, as a child I had associated and compared my own happiness, and life to that of Barbie’s ideal and perfect world. In my young and naïve eyes, looking physically different from Barbie was an immediate “No-Entry” into Mattel’s pink Garden of Eden. As we all mature, gain self-confidence and acceptant of human differences, Barbie, ken and her pink castle, were forever stored in the attic of my past, rotting along with floppy disks and other obsolete objects. Only to haunt us all again.

     The Barbie Phenomenon has caused across the globe the societal impact of empowering and motivating women into pursuing whichever field or profession women dreamt of. It seemed as though Mattel had eradicated the 19th Century’s misogynistic idea of “Femme Fatale”, with Barbie. The question is: “At what cost?” During the 20th Century,  a difficult time period marked by constant wars, and the psychological trauma men endured after witnessing the horrors of the war, women had to become resilient and strong, like the soldiers in battlefields, by working and holding entire households on their shoulders, as we see in J. Howard Miller’s famous poster “We Can Do It!” (1943) Barbie without a doubt, succeeds in embodying the working women of the 20th century.

        Now, in the 21st century, a new question emerges: Has barbie evolved with  the needs of our time? Is Barbie still modern? Is Barbie still “Avant-Garde”? I argue that in a way Barbie, the owner of the Volkswagen, the pets, and everything around her; sold to young girls the idea that men (Ken) could also come as a promotion once you saved enough lunch money to buy “Barbie’s Mansion”-  batteries not included, condoms sold separately – the invisible tag 21st century bachelorettes see stamped on men’s foreheads: Men, viewed as real life Kens, or most commonly called: “Boy toys.” The artist Dina Goldstein, shows in her In the Dollhouse Series, The perfect relationship of Barbie and Ken being brought down as Ken begins to reject the role Barbie has set for him: The role of being “Her Bitch”. It seems as though, the longer women linger unto the, what I like to call the “Barbie utopia”, the more women inadvertently begin to simulate being real life barbie dolls, and viewing their partners as male dress up dolls and or “trophy husbands.”I would argue that in today’s world, a large majority of girls can be found guilty of emasculating men, through their misguided fight for equality in feminism. In other words, feminism’s problem in 21st century should be targeted towards preventing women from psychologically castrating men.

        Philandry, the opposite of misandry (the hatred for men) is defined as: “the fraternal love and admiration for men”. It was during college, that I noticed how on our weekly wine down sunday nights my best friends and I would find ourselves starting a conversation revolving around the thought of “Ugh, I hate men, they are so stupid”, we would tell stories and have a good laugh but slowly, as the evening progressed, those initial thoughts suddenly transform themselves into “Man, sometimes I stop and wonder why God didn’t make me a man?” Objectivist philosopher Ayn Rand, speaks on Feminity’s essence being “Hero worship”, an intense type of admiration which can only be experienced by a woman of strong character and independent value-judgments.

“…And the anger began to Ferment.”

-John Steinbeck. Grapes of wrath.

Only a “clinging vine” type of woman would consider admiration towards a hard working man a synonym of inferiority, of dependence, and obedience; this will lead to her becoming not a love or admirer, but rather the opposite: A misandrist, an exploiter of men. The feminist movement would be advised to practice mindfulness when defending women against misogyny, for a new problem may emerge, women taking justice by their own hand, (As we see represented in the Baroque artist Artemisia Gentileschi “Judith Decapitant Holopherne” 1614-1620) led by anger and incurring into one of the three deadliest sins: Wrath.

ENVY | Female Misogyny.

“Misogynist: A man that hates women, as much as women hate one another.”
Henry Louis Mencken. American Journalist

       “She’s such a bitch, she changes boyfriends like she changes underwear.”, “What red dye is that, “Red Whore”?, “Girl, What’s your major? ‘Hoe-ology’?” Do any of those sound familiar, or can you at least relate one of those? It seems as though being a feminist is the new requirement to be accepted in the contemporary female society. The first question I ask any newly self proclaimed-feminist member is “What does feminism stand for?” the answer I hear is: “Equality.” It then raises the question: “Why aren’t men and women equal?” The second answer I hear, has something to do with “Equality of Opportunity.” Well, Question: Are dogs and cats equal? Are stallions and butterflies the same? How about sharks and lions? Can they do the same things? Did nature endow each one of them with the same abilities as the other? Can dogs fall from incredible heights and walk perfectly fine as if nothing happened like cats can? Probably not. If you were to judge how superior is the stallion to the butterfly in it’s ability to fly, what would your ultimate verdict be? Likewise, If you judged the superiority of the butterfly over the stallions’s ability to pull heavy carriages, what would your final verdict be? What does this teach us about nature and the world, in general, for that matter? That there is no such thing as “Equality of opportunity”, as nature does not grant equal beauty, intelligence, nor strength to living organisms. If this is true for nature, and arguing that human beings are part of nature, why would men and women be an exception?

      The idea of Le Femme Fatale, was born in Paris during the 19th century amongst philosophers and artists, and based on the unjustified belief of Eve’s ( and women in general) responsibility on the fall of mankind from the Garden of Eden. It was then argued that women were nothing mere seductresses that distracted men from their daily duties and responsibilities. We must remember that during this time women were barely educated and high employment positions were almost strictly reserved for men. Women dedicated themselves mostly to prostitution, housewives, entertainment, or in restaurants as waitresses or bartenders, as we see in  Edgar Degas’ “A bar at the folies-Bergere” (1882) or Claude Manet’s “Olympia” (1863) . Two hundred years later, in the 21st century, I argue that despite the significant improvements in employment opportunities, and that despite that women have even acquired positions of presidency as Angela Merkel has in Germany, Le femme are still Fatale.

     The question is: “‘Fatale’, fatal, to who?” I would argue that in the 21st century, women have become distractions to themselves and competitors amongst each other, not for employment or in academia, but for men’s attention. In other words, women have become “Fatale” to themselves, the capital sin of Envy at it’s finest. I once had the privilege and honor to speak to Dr. Germaine Greer, leading feminist figure of the 20th century and author of The Female Eunuch, at the Hay Festival 2010 and asked her on her thoughts on The Barbie Phenomena to which she brilliantly responded, “Barbie is more about racism than it is about sexism. But Sexism, on the other hand, has less to do with what men think of women, and more of what women think of themselves.” To any woman, or young college girl, with the intention of defending her rights of equality before the world, my best advice in where to begin, would be to change and help yourself first, before attempting to change the world. Instead of belittling, empower other women. Instead of hiding and taking shame in your sexuality, proudly embrace it. As I responded one morning to some nosey, rude girl neighbor as I was proudly strutting through the parking lot during what I love to call My Shameless Walk-Of-Shame –  “There’s no shame in the game. Don’t hate the player, Girl. Hate the game.”