SLOTH | Les Prostitueés: Olympia

As a hard working, young woman, I have always admired fellow women who go into the working field carrying the financial burden of entire households on their backs. As a way to end this series of the “seven deadliest sins” I have chosen to speak on women who in my regard, have ventured in perhaps one of the hardest, most dangerous, and less rewarding professions of all; Prostituées, Courtesans, The “Olympias” of the world: Prostitutes.

When one takes the step to be a participant of an exclusive relationship, one has promised fidelity to the person who in our regard merits it. The person we have chosen as our spouse is not the best option for us in the planet, simply because a whole lifetime wouldn’t be enough to meet all 6 billion people on earth to choose our spouse from. The person elected, as our spouse is that one who is a better match for us compared to all previous options encountered. This in economics is understood as “Marginal Decision Making” where both the benefits and the costs of a product (or person) have been weighted, and then the marginal benefits of the same product (or person) are then later compared to the marginal benefit received from all previous options considered. The product, or person, we chose in the end is that whose marginal benefit primes over it’s marginal costs, and exceeds the marginal benefit of all other products, or people, considered. We employ Marginal Decision Making in everything we do, from comparing prices and products at supermarkets, to choosing our partner or spouse.

While economics can help us understand why we have chosen to marry someone and offer our significant other our fidelity, economics also holds the answer as to why we are likely to be unfaithful to the same person. How can this be? Simple, it’s called “The Law of Diminishing Marginal Benefit” This law states that amount of consumption of a determined product is inversely proportional to the marginal utility derived from consuming each unity of the same product. Sounds confusing? Allow me to set an example. Suppose you love chocolate, (as you love your wife or girlfriend), the first time you tasted the first bite of chocolate you heart and soul melted, you would probably agree with the Mayan belief that cocoa beans are the Gods’ drink in heaven. Your craving is now satisfied. Supposing you decide to continue having more and more of it, your satisfaction will slowly begin to decrease. Your love for chocolate will probably be rating around a seven or so by now. But if you, the chocoholic, continue to eat more and more chocolate your love for chocolate will probably reach to a rating of three, and as you keep eating you will eventually reach the point where you might start getting sick and tired of Chocolate. Chocolate will now provide you dissatisfaction, rather than satisfaction. You have now reached the point of Dis-utility, congratulations.

The law of diminishing marginal benefit applies to almost everything we consume and we find pleasure in, including people. This does not justify, but rather explain infidelity; it explains the reason why after years of being married to the same person, someone else might begin to seem more sexually appealing. This also serves to understand the core fundament behind prostitution.

“I always wanted to help people but the only skills I could make use of is that with my body. So I use it to heal the hearts of men and women alike, allowing them to drown in pleasure and forget the world, which puts them down. Sure some will despise me, some will think I’m broken and try and take advantage of that, while other will try and offer me escape, but I don’t want to, I’m not broken, I do this because I enjoy it, and making the people I serve happy.”

– Prostitute for over 5 years.

Prostitutes, and openly sexually active women (like myself), are what in the late 19th and early 20th century in Paris were known to be a Demi-monde. The term implies to live a hedonistic lifestyle, and describes the behavior of a person who choses to openly act outside of the established societal bourgeois values. The modernist French painter Claude Manet’s “Olympia” (1863) excelled in representing a reformed and rather challenging version of the Italian Renaissance master’s “Venus of Urbino” (1742). Olympia was the name associated with prostitutes during 1860 Paris; and rather than seeming inviting and seductive towards the viewer. Olympia’s gaze is confrontational, and that of stoic indifference towards both the viewer’s judgment of her sexual labor and the arrival of the new client, suggested by the arriving bouquet, held by the African maid.

It is also noteworthy that her hand placed on top of her genitalia is often interpreted as the freedom to grant or deny access to clients, which could be attributed to the fact that Olympia might be a highly-payed courtesan of the time as indicated by the pearl-costly pendants she wears. Finally, though both are nudes, the “Venus of Urbino” and “Olympia” contrast in themes as indicated by the animals featured on each painting respectively. The “Venus of Urbino” was meant to represent the wife of the Duke of Urbino seductively waiting for her husband, her fidelity embodied in the dog sleeping by her side. “Olympia” on the other hand awaits anyone; she awaits no one, for what belongs to everyone belongs to no one. Her sexual freedom embodied in the cat awake and alert by her side. 

Prostitution has been mistakenly and often categorized as a slothful way of gaining wealth, as both the words “sloth” and (sexual) “Labor” are mutually exclusive of each other. In the world there is no such thing as equality of opportunity, there is only equality in potential, in potential of working. To some and many women in the world, prostitution serves as the best of all options before them, and will (in most cases) willingly choose to become prostitutes; Marginal Decision Making at it’s finest. The question with legalizing prostitution should in my regard, not be based from it’s morality perspective, but rather on whether it should be regulated to prevent sexually transmitted diseases, or epidemics as was the case in 19th century Paris and Syphilis. Simply put, as long as resources remain scarce and must then be allocated thorough pricing, as long as there is a demand for a determined product or service, there will always be someone willing to work and supply it; for it is a universal truth of life, that…

“By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground (…)”

– Genesis 3:19

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PRIDE | Are we having “Trophy Sex”?

“A sex trophy should be functional, and shaped like a dildo, yet decorative.”

– Jarod Kintz.

        Before there was Redtube or PornHub, there were Des Beaux Arts. For centuries, men would commission art works showcasing their mistresses, or favorite prostitutes as their nude subjects, for it was thought that no woman with a gram of dignity in her body, would dare to expose herself. Such is the case of several master paintings made throughout the history of art. It hadn’t been until the emergence of the artistic movement Rococo during 18th century France, that patronesses of recognized societal status would commission themselves as the subjects of nudes, for they would be found dressed with the garments of aesthetic elements and mythological allusions, as we see with François Boucher’s “The Toilet of Venus” (1751), commissioned by the Marquise de Pompadour. Posing as the Goddess of beauty “Venus” seemed like a great excuse to be naked, right? Quite clever, if you ask my opinion.

        But as mentioned previously, before Rococo came around to save the day for married women throughout the world; men commissioned works featuring their collection of mistresses, (La collection des side-bitches) to be showcased to other fellow men in private collections. As is the case of the famous painting made by the Renaissance master “The Venus of Urbino.” (1538) commissioned by the Guidobaldo II della Rovere, the duke of Urbino. The Venus of Urbino was intended to represent his wife Giulia Varano (Le Main bitch), awaiting for her husband. But in fact, the model was Angela de Moro, a highly paid courtesan of the time. Rumor has it that Angela de Moro, was perhaps the Duke of Urbino’s favorite mistress (The main Side-bitch). Truth or false? Who knows?

        We are all familiar with the term of a Trophy Wife simply defined as: n. An attractive wife, serving as a status symbol for the husband. However, 21st century Hook up culture has made it possible to have a list of Trophy women; men’s collection of the victims conquered throughout their sexual life. This, interestingly enough, does not solely apply to men but to women as well. 21st century self-proclaimed feminist and independent young bachelorettes can often be found guilty of showcasing their collection of  Trophy men, “Boy Toys”,  finding themselves unconcerned with their happiness, goals, hopes or dreams. Yes. I’ll admit to it as well. Forgive me lord, for I have sinned.

        Modern day feminist women are quick to fight against female sexual objectification, but could it be that 21st century hook up culture has also slowly, but surely sexually objectified men? Dating apps like Tinder, have made it a trend for women of all ages to go out on Friday nights and compete over taking home the hottest guy at the club, only to give him a fake number the next morning.  Moreover, some women go as far as dating men for superficial qualities extending from physique, to job, societal status, College major, and when asking about their personality it probably goes as far as: “Oh my God, yeah he is super sweet! he bought me flowers. I think I’m going to marry him.” Key words: BOUGHT. ME. FLOWERS. Let that sink in. Simply put, her marriage criterion would have probably been met by anyone willing to do the same for her. So the question is: Does she actually love you, the person dwelling inside? or could it be possible that she is playing to be a real-life Barbie doll, and are you simply filling up the role of Ken, in her pink mental utopia? Finding yourself slowly and steadily becoming one of her collectable Kens, one of her potentially disposable, Trophy Men.

        Now that we have all confessed to the sin of Sexual Pride or Vainglory, here at the Sexual Confessionary, the question remains: Has commitment phobia in modern day society given birth to “Trophy Sex”? and if so, Does “Trophy Sex” emerge as a result of mutual gender sexual objectification? I believe that after a while of mastering the art of seduction and becoming a master-level sexual hunter; after having enough collectable Ken or Barbie heads hung on your wall, enough “Venuses of Urbino” hanging in your private collection (La collection des “Dick Pics” or “Nudes”), there comes a moment when the master hunter must turn the weaponry in, admit to his or her own humanity, recognize all wins and loses, wave goodbye, bow and retire from the game. For a real master of the game, knows when the time has come for his sun to set. A real master of the game understands it’s best to walk home waving good bye through the golden gates, than be kicked out through the back door. The former sexual hunter, now filled with the maturity empiric knowledge has granted him or her, will now begin his quest towards finding not “The Golden Pussy” or “The Divine Dick”, but for a person of bone and flesh with a mind and a soul, worthy of loving and capable of loving in return. The quest for love, begins with a change of attitude.

      According to Dante Alighieri’s “Struttura della Divina Commedia” the seventh deadliest sin is pride, vainglory, for it represents the abuse of our intellect, our rational ability; that which places us above the beasts and closer to the creator. The sexual hunter can find himself guilty of the sin of Pride, for he has employed psychological maneuvers and tricks to seduce and capture the objects of his desire. Pride is to deny everyone else’s humanity, and only acknowledging our own. Redemption from Pride can only be brought by the Seventh Heavenliest Virtue of all: Humility, for it recognizes everyone’s humanity.

      Love is often compared by many contemporaries with baseball. A baseball player can win “The Home Run Derby” by scoring 10 or 20 home runs, and possibly be chosen to play in the All-Star Games; but as it is true for both baseball and love, only passion for the game (Love) and acknowledgment of other individuals, of other players, as part of one whole humanity, of one team, can grant you a taste of the glory that comes with winning a World Series Championship. If you are guilty, as I myself am, of the sin of Sexual Pride, remind yourself that it is never too late for redemption, for life is filled with second chances. If you’re humble enough to love someone else’s humane perfections and imperfections, as they have chosen to love yours, in the game of love my friend, you might have just earned yourself your very own and well deserved World Series Championship ring, with a carving celebrating the “Greatest Comeback in Baseball (in The Game of Love’s) History.”